> significantly less evidence of
> self-obsession any day of the week!
>

Hi Stephen,

How can you find this out?

I am more interested in understanding this part. Most of the Indian women suffer from "me me me", "attention seeking" syndorme.(that definitely includes me, see, that "me" again. lol.) that partlty because, they suffer from attention deficiency (lol), during their growing up period, and there is allways lot of pressure on them in proving they are of "good charactered" girls... just an example, when some girl is saying that she doesn't have friends in men, other girl will say, I don't talk to them at all, to put her in a better "character" than the first one. A third one might say, she never looked at them, a fourth one might say, she doesn't even know how men looked-like, a fifth one might say, she is not aware such a species existed.... it goes on like that. I have found that this (proving "me" better than the other girls), makes them talk about "me" all the time, turning any discussion anything they do, anything at all, around them, and just them... it is very difficult to escape that "me" thing for more than 10 minutes of any kind of conversation with indian girls..

unlike many westerners beleif that arranged marriage is forced on girls/boys, it is actually considered "good character" by the girls and boys themselves, and often you will see, "love" treated as a swearing word (once one of our dance-group-mate refused to perform, as the song we selected had one "love" word in lyrics, not to mention that the theme was not at all related to love or anything of that sort. I still mean love as "going-out" thing..).... arranged marriage still exists and i am sure it will continue to exist for a quite a long time to come, as every girl/boy wants to prove they are of good charactered, good-up-bringing, from good family background... To my amazement, arranged marriage works better than the other one (we call "love marriage").

my brother is going for arranged marriage, which is to my dissappointment; because I thought I had allways taught him well. But, he seems happy and the girl seems very happy too. if it works out well, who am i to say anything. it is going to be really tough time for me to find a balancing act with the new member in my family.